Your Call: My Boyfriend Is Obsessed with the Money Shot

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Dear Em & Lo,

I have been dating this guy for a while now. We have been intimate and everything has been great… up until he ultimately finishes. If you catch my drift. He will literally stand up and try to come all over me… face and down. When he first did it, I was honestly in shock. I had no idea, and I tried to play it cool, and nicely voiced that I didn’t like that. But as I see it, he’s into that, and maybe he won’t ultimately finish unless it’s all over me? I see it upsets him that I don’t like it.

I have told him he’s been watching too many pornos and that doesn’t go down everywhere, but perhaps this is a new thing, like getting Brazilians and such? I appreciate any advice offered on how to deal with Mr. Squirtle.

– Don’t Pour Your Sugar on Me

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3 years 2 months ago

Just to be clear, did you actually ask him WHY he wants to come all over you? Or did you just assume that “But as I see it, he’s into that, and maybe he won’t ultimately finish unless it’s all over me?”

If he can’t explain why he Needs to ejaculate all over you, then he is a jerk and you should have some self-worth and move on. But maybe this really is his fetish. And if it is his kink, then you need to make a decision about if this kink is a deal breaker in your relationship. It is ok if it is a deal breaker for you. You do not have to stay with someone who has a kink that you have to participate in and that makes you unhappy/uncomfortable/degraded/etc.

If this isn’t his fetish and he just thinks it makes him look like a porn star or he think this is normal bedroom behavior (it isn’t), then you need to sit him down one last time and tell him that you absolutely do not enjoy this act and that if he does it again, you are done with him. And stick to your guns.

3 years 3 months ago

The “Money Shot” is disgustingly disrespectful to a woman; nothing else can be said of it. If I were a woman and a man wanted to do this to me it would be an immediate deal-breaker, if he surprised me with it he’d get his ass kicked.
As a man, it would be hard for me to respect a woman who wanted this done to her, or allowed this disgusting act to be performed upon her.

3 years 3 months ago

This is clearly a respect issue. It’s not a question of him giving you a facial. This can relate to any particular act. The problem is that he’s performing an act that a) you do not like, b) without your consent, and c) continuing to do it after you expressed your desire that he stop. A relationship needs to be based on the two people respecting one another. If he cannot learn to respect your wishes, it’s time for you to move on.

Dave W
3 years 3 months ago

I’ve gotta believe that if he disregards your feelings on this, he’s also guilty of it in other areas. And seeing that you’ve attempted to make excuses for him furthers my suspicions.

3 years 3 months ago

It’s time to tell the rude dude goodbye. And don’t take too long about it!