Dear Em & Lo,
About six months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months and have recently met someone new. The other day the new boy and I were engaging in some hands-on action which led me to discover that he nowhere near measured up to my ex. The new boy was around 4-6″. My problem is that I’m really worried about having sex with him because my ex was over 8″. I feel really disappointed and I know that 8″ is a high bar that’s been set. Am I bad person for thinking he has a small penis or should I go looking for something more? Why can’t good-looking men come with the measurements of their penis tattooed onto their wrist or something? The problems and surprises that would solve.
–Sizeist
Dear Sizeist,
We almost didn’t print your letter because of the emotional damage it might inflict on insecure men everywhere. It’s the secret fear that everyone — male and female — experiences at some point in their hook-up life: Am I being compared to my partner’s ex(es)? And if so, am I failing to measure up?
But on behalf of all the average-sized men out there, i.e. the vast majority of men, we highly recommend you give Mr. 4-6″ a chance. You’ve heard about society’s unfair expectation that women try to live up to impossible female beauty standards, right? Well, you’re doing the same thing, except with men and their dicks.
First, you need to understand that, statistically speaking, 8 inches is abberantly long; out of 100 men, only 5 will be longer than 6.3 inches! (Was it really 8 inches, or are you just bad at spatial reasoning?) It’s not like 8-inchers grow on trees and you’ve dated a string of giants and have come to discover (pun intended) that only super-sized schlongs can satisfy you. No, you just had one great experience with one rare “8-inch“ penis. And this is by no means a guarantee that sex with a 4-6″ penis will feel only 50-75% as great.
For a start, some men with big swinging dicks can get lazy in the sack, assuming that size is the only thing that matters. They may also assume that intercourse is the only thing that matters — and we all know how few women climax from intercourse alone; remember, orgasm achieved through non-penile means still counts as sex. Oral, manual, anal, toys — it’s all good, and in many cases, better! Not to mention, you may suddenly discover new penetration positions that you really enjoy — positions that perhaps were not so comfortable with a larger specimen. Oh, and don’t forget that, for the standard vagina, the majority of sensation is felt and enjoyed in its outer third, thanks to the extensions of the clitoris, the g-spot, and the pelvic floor muscles around the lower part of the vaginal canal (and also since a lot of women don’t enjoy having their cervix pummeled with a battering ram).
On a final note: Maybe he was nervous and not fully inflated, as it were. Basically, you have no idea what more extended and extensive sexual interludes are going to be like with this man. So if you dig him (and we surely hope the handwork you exchanged means that you do), why not find out whether the motion of his ocean can get the job done?
Of course, we can’t discount the fact that you may simply be less attracted to him (or not attracted to him at all) now that you’ve scoped out his unit — you like what you like. This doesn’t necessarily make you a bad person, though you are severely limiting your dating options. We suppose you could post a dating profile specifying that only 8″-penis-owners need reply. But something tells us that’s not exactly the way to find the next Boyfriend of the Year. Here’s a better idea: Spend some quality time with an average-sized penis and see if the experience — or the person himself — converts you? He is a human being after all, not a piece of meat.
Size is just a number,
Em & Lo
My last resort before I convince myself that sex doesn’t matter. It’s only the love.
Dear Em & Lo
I have been dating my boyfriend for over 4 years. And I’m just going to get right to it, I am not satisfied sexually. Before I am claimed to be shallow I want to point out that we have tried a lot. He is not aware of this deepest secret of mine. I have hidden this from him because the last thing I want to do is hurt him. I care for him deeply. And The truth is he has a small penis. I have been with only 2 other men. And I KNOW what I like in bed. For one making love is at the top of my need list. I need to feel that connection with someone. I have only felt the connection with 1 other person and he is my ex. I was in love with him undoubtedly. We shared this connection I can’t even begin to explain. This man had a larger penis. Funny thing was, is that during sex it hurt because he was bigger. I don’t want it to hurt but what I’m trying to point out is the connection between us is what I crave. My boyfriend of 4 years is an amazing guy, he would do anything for me. We talk about marriage and kids and all those wonderful things. But I can’t seem to shake the want and need feeling of a deep connection and a sexual connection. I have researched and tried different things to try, sex positions, the tighten exercise, dildos, (which i like but it’s not the same), back door and other thing for 3 years now and still with all these different things, it hasn’t help any. I need advice. Very badly. Please help me.
I think you’d have to let him know how you feel. He must know in his own mind he’s small – does he assume you’re totally happy with his size? Or has he ever let you know he’s a bit insecure about it?
He has mentioned that he has is smaller before. All I said was it’s not small and it’s not big. I don’t want to hurt him. Recently he’s been making jokes about having a big penis. I think he wants to see my reaction but after 4 years I can hide my true feelings really well and I don’t want it to be like this. It’s not healthy.
Well the fact he’s making jokes suggests he wants you to talk to him about it – he probably won’t be as hurt as you might think. How about next time he makes a joke try going along with it and making a joke back?
As a “small” guy myself I can tell you it’s much beter to hear what the woman really thinks, and then find a way forward. Also much better for the relationship to have that open-ness. As you say – can’t go on like this. I think you’d be pleasantly surprised if you did talk to him about it.
You are right. We are open about everything but this issue. We’ve had conversation before about how important it is for us to both share the connection. It’s hard to receive that when I’m not satisfied sexually though. Sometimes I feel like it’s his first time and he didn’t know what to do and he definitely isn’t confident. That is clear. And I talk to him about things that would help. But it doesn’t seem to work. I will not say his smaller then what I’ve been with either, ever.
Well i can understand that your frustration must be kind of spoiling things. Why not tell him previos guys were bigger? He’s probaby guessed anyway and he’s always going to wonder – obviously tread carefully at first but if you can start the talk with him on a joking level thats going to be way easier.
Every chance his “performance” will improve a lot once youve told him you feel. The fact that youve started to be open with him can only boost his confidence, not knowing what you think is probably hampering his confidence now.
Thank you so much for the advice, it’s nice hearing it from a guys prospective. The last year or so we’ve opened up a lot when it comes to sex. Being completely honest is going to be the hard part though. I guess knowing how to foreplay and coming on to my partner comes naturally and I guess I think it should for him too.
I think guys are a lot easier to please to be honest, so harder for a guy to “just know.” He’s probaby got a few insecurities going on about his size which are occupying his thoughts so he hasn’t yet made an effort. Its easy for a guy’s mindset to be I’m small therefore I can never satisfy a girl so I wont bother trying. Obviously he needs to break out of that mindset and get to thinking how he can satisfy you despite size. Confidence is key here.
Im sure the total honesty will be difficult but small steps at first, maybe start with something like well yea you are on the small side – in a light hearted way? And then work up to a stage of saying previous guys were bigger. You cant change his size but you can change his attitude/confidence. Hope things work out for you 🙂
a woman broke up with me because I was too small… 5.5′. I was devastated and I still am. my new girl, who I have no feeling for, tells me she is nuts and my size is fine. the girl that broke up with me told me she loves me, several times after breaking up too, and loves everything about me… except my dick. I may never get over it!
I faced the exact situation recently. I have been with my ex for 4 years and after first couple of years, I realized that she was not at all physically satisfied. We talked about it and she told there is a connection missing between us. Finally we decided to live separately for last one year but stayed as friends going holidays together etc.
few weeks ago her ex came back from abroad and I was cut off as friend also. She had told me before also how it was sexually better with her ex. And now she told that she is going back to her ex after 6years and they are together again.
This feels bad as I loved her but I now realize that physical connection is also very important in a relationship. I know I am now blaming her for all the bad times I had since due to lack of physical chemistry, she was upset quite often when we were together. But being a 40 years old I am slowly getting the hang of the situation.
To be honest, I am hurt as for me this was trivial thing and keeping her smiling and laughing and making her happy every other way was my only other option to get over the physical dissatisfaction. Unfortunately this was not the case for her. I am now not so excited to be with anyone else and look for new love as I realize my shortcomings. I told her all movie dialogue also that she will regret etc but I guess she will never as she seems very happy now and says she is in love again.
I am an Indian guy and the girl was European so there is definitely a difference in physical features.
So in your case, I can just comment that it hurts but it all depends on what you give more importance in life.
Maybe the connection you crave is not entirely physical? It may be that this feeling you are hidding is getting in the way of feeling truly intimate with him. Of course yu dont want to hurt him, but leaving him over this will hurt him too. I don’t know why women assume all men to be so fragile on this. So why not try and be honest. Gently and carefully tell him that you crave a bigger penis (not necessarily you ex’s !) talk about it – as a fantasy, a fettish, a desire. You don’t say how small he is, but he will know – believe me! If he is in any normal range (4 plus inches) then it is something you can work with? You may find that – once you have shared your inner feelings, you will feel horrny as hell. And he will respond with confidence because he has a more intimate knowledge and connection with you. And once your brain and mind is in gear with his, it could make fireworks! So long as you are prepared to love his penis, of course you can share with him your desires. He might be relieved? You may discover that this secret you are keeping is what is coming between you and feeling ‘connected’ and not his equipment! Trying all alternatives you mentioned without the intimacy was never going to work. Its’ like tricking someone into sharing a kink you have, without them being in on it – it would never feel that good. Once they know too….boom! So try them with intimacy!
you’re still in love with your ex
Go out and get a Brazilian wax, and buy some super slutty lengerie you know your ex likes. Find out a way to “accidentally” run in to him making it a point for him to know just how hot and bothered you are for him. Tease him a little. Make him aggressively take you. It’s what you need. Make it a one time thing if your ex is some loser whose only redeeming quality is his sexual skills….or a once every now and then thing. We ALL have a “secret lover” or three in our lives. Just keep it quiet if u need to.
Ok, I’d been with my husband for 25 years before he passed away in his 30s…I considered him to be of normal size by measurement measures. I could not always get my rocks off and sex was mediocre at best. The man I’m currently dating is small. I figured that the first time I tried to put a condom on him and it fell off (granted, it was a magnum – oops) he lost his confidence and his erection that night and I worried it was all over – in the sack. I was so freaking wrong. Once we got the condom thing figured out, holy hell. Not only did he rock my world, but I lost count after 6-7 times the next time we got together. He definitely knows how to work what he’s got. He’s maybe 5.5″ and not girthy and I’ve yet to not have an orgasm. Multiple ones at that…so there ya go.
Sounds like you and your guy are both pretty lucky! We’re so impressed that your guy hung in there after the condom fell off… most guys would want to hide under a table after something like that. But whatever you did clearly boosted his sexual confidence enough to bring him back. (What DID you do or say?)
he blamed it on being tired and said he would make up for it. BOY DID HE. I know I said 5.5″ but that was being generous. It definitely is smaller, but I enjoy every freaking moment with him. And he can last a long time, which definitely helps. And not being girthy means I can last longer without being in agony. Lol
Actually 5.1 is the national average so he’s slightly above, average girth is 4.75 in circumference.
It’s done, women are not satisfied with a small penis but a huge dick is too big. There is no middle ground just unhappy partners until the next man, the cycle repeats.
Dear Em & Lo,
Suicide is a sin in my religion; one that prevents entry to heaven, but I question the veracity of this interpretation. Do you think that if I commit suicide, God might allow me to go to heaven anyway, owing to the fact that my penis is small? It may sound silly or weird and it’s very real to me that maybe God put men with small penises on earth to test them. I think God might be testing me to see if I realize that my relative smallness makes me evil. If that’s the case, my hope is that by committing suicide I might earn a less painful eternity in hell or, depending on how many underendowed men commit suicide instead of remaining evil, perhaps pergatory. To be honest, I think it works as follows: Let’s assume all guys with small penises are evil. I think this is safe to assume because it is generally accepted (for instance people say nazis, Sadaam Hussein etc had small penises… or like when a man drives dangerously or just generally treats people with disrespect it’s because his penis is small). Given this, maybe a guy with a small penis can better his soul (i.e. make himself less evil) by committing suicide, if and only if he also realized and realizes that if his spiritual worth is equal to the size of his penis as measured in cubic inches. I’m not going to kill myself this month so no need to rush your answer, I’m just curious to know your perspective and your readers’ perspectives on how I should kill myself, or if, perhaps, I’m better off creating deceit on earth (by pretending men with small penises aren’t evildoers, doomed to hell) so as to enjoy life as much as possible before my inevitable eternal damnation. Thoughts?
Hellishly warm regards,
EvilDick
I too am contemplating suicide. 4 circumference and almost 5 length. It’s funny how much discussion there is about size but no one talks about the actual size. I also wonder if this small dicked over life is just a test from God.
To both EvilDick and Small I honestly don’t know why you both think a larger penis will make you happy or a good person. I have a 5 inch penis, and while it would be nice to have a huge one it doesn’t make me evil or really unhappy. Every guy who has a smaller penis needs to accept it and move on. There is nothing you can do to really affect the size so why waste all that emotion and energy over something you have absolutely no control over? My penis has never failed to give me lots of pleasure and 2 wonderful children. Have I been with women who I didn’t satisfy? Sure but the way I look at is if my 5 inch penis, my mouth and my hands can’t satisfy you then that’s your problem. Maybe you should take a look at men who are born with a micro penis and be thankful for what you do have.
A big dick would be nice, but its no going to make you happy. I felt the same way for a couple of months until I found a new girl that likes my dick…. and you can tell!
That’s like a poor man saying “money doesn’t buy you happiness.” Having a big thick penis, while having a lover with an even bigger penis, with hot girls ready to fuck, AND at the same time owning a successful business and having large amounts of money is like being God.
Jeff I hope you read this. From reading your post you seem like a very kind hearted man. But just as you you said your wife deserves satifaction you deserve satifaction. Now I am good at reading people emotions but from reading your comment you dont sound satified with your wife fucking other men and not wanting to fuck you. I know I am just some random guy on the internet amd my opinion is could mean less to you but i would highly advise getting a divorce do your own sake.
I have to say reading the comments I found what I was looking for the harsh truth of women nature. In regards to the women talking about evolutionary biology I agree with you every person deserves satisfaction. But you are telling me my role is to support a child that may or may not be mine, support a spouse that constantly cheats on me with another man, and do all this with dignity. I am sorry that is a role I can not and will not accept to do so would be accepting to live a life of torture as you are saying you have lived if not worse. If the you were a male would accept that life? I would like to think not. It makes it hard to believe in god becuase who would create us to be hard wired this way. I honestly dont even want to have kids anymore out of fear that my son might have a small penis and go through this hell.
I know this is 9 months old, but I really hope you’ve subscribed to email updates. I have previously posted on the “10 reasons your ugly vagina…” blog article and absolutely never mentioned religion or anything similar, under the name “Just bein Real” about 4 months ago, but…I really want to reach out to you and anyone who is feeling like you were when you posted
regarding the Bible/God
1a. God had a perfect plan for Man (mankind), but
1b. also gave Man/Woman freewill (if you were the master programmer of the universe, wouldn’t you want to create beings in your form who can choose to love or not to love, etc?)
2. Mankind fucked all of this up
3. Nothing evil or torturous is God’s idea or wish or part of his plan, that’s a misconception, he works through evil, but anyone who thinks someone is born, say, severely crippled like I was or…with some other deformity that can never be fixed or become catatonic and live the rest of there days like that has not actually read the Bible for themselves nor are they someone to have a serious talk about God about if you’re in a state of disbelief. That stuff, is of the devil (Satan, whatever you want to call him)
4. The only hope is accepting the fact that God has three facets of His being and sent a part of Himself (God the Son) to live in the body and mind of Jesus and walked the Earth for the ultimate goal being to fulfill Old Testament prophecies, prove that hHe was God and the Messiah, and finally, that to be “saved” or “spared from damnation” was to believe, not offer sacrifices or follow Mosaic law to a T or any of that crap. Just, in a nutshell, our hope other than that is mercy from God while on this hellish earth and making the best of every moment we’re alive.
I’m a woman, I’ve felt like you (and sometimes still do)–not just about God but definitely about accepting roles that I shouldn’t have to both sexually, gender-wise…just hope you read this to know someone cares enough to type a long-ass post at the expense of revealing personal, even embarassing, personal info in the hopes that you read it and take it to heart, with the hope a seed of faith, or at least hope, is taken from my post by you (or maybe even someone else…doesn’t matter, man, woman, straight, lgbt whatever, all across the board there are people with these very same issues and it seems so many times sex, along with money or lake thereof, is the root of all evil.
God is real, please at least think about believing. Just think about it, in the grand scheme of things just where did nothing-ness come from? We still understand so little, and the more technology and science advances and the more we learn, it all begs more questions instead of satisfying us. We just keep looking for the ultimate answer to all, when the truth is, we’re looking for God, and whether thinking logically or not, only an all-knowing, all-powerful, omnipresentr/always-present God could be the answer. Most people have heart that a million times, and it comes off as so cliche, but for people who think Christianity is about becoming “sheeple”…that comes from these heavily-indoctrinated sects of Chrstianity that take their own perspective and brainwash.
Anyway, and lastly I promise, I’ve understood and enjoyed all aspects of computers since age 7, and want to do something with that since so many ppl hate repetitive, evasive computer problems and I’m good and patient with those things, so please think about something you love doing that could in turn lead to a better life. I’m serious. That’s what I’m aiming for because having been married to a disabled man for 10 years to whom I almost became a widow to just 2 weeks before this last Christmas, having autistic twins and issues with my own self…and regardless of the many very real tangible obstacles in my way of going back to school that will take time to square away, I’ve gotta do something while I’m still a part of this rat-race called life–>I was thinking of Dennis Miller on Joe Dirt when he was beginning the interview with Joe Dirt/Dirte. God bless you, @a man who has lost faith in the world and anyone who happens to read this and resonate with it to any degree.
*apologize for the numerous typos in prev. post; my Linux OS is stuck on UK autocorrect globally, not just on my browser, and didn’t take the time to go thru everything*
Plus, felt the need to come back just to say, I know that archaeological evidence and such doesn’t seem to be reconcilable with Genesis especially, but I just want to say for credibility’s sake the Bible as we know it (not considering apocrypha or non-Canonical texts, etc) was written at the time, for the times and generations beyond…while maintaining genealogy and other very important parts of history deemed most important, within their own abilities, and obviously then and since future generations reject it and rejected for instance Jesus Himself even as He was doing supernatural things that could not have been accomplished at the time with technology or the means we have today..people have and always will reject God.
Surely it’s logical to assume we as humans just can’t fathom what science seems to show co-existing with God’s absolute truths, such as, just when were humans endowed with souls? what about neanderthals, or other homo-sapien like beings that were so much like us…etc. But the Bible supports us just not knowing everything and being confused is supported through many specific verses (of course, needing being read in context) such as Deut. 29:29, Daniel 2:22…or in NT 1 Corinthians 2:10 and help me, at least, come to terms with there being major things humans aren’t even meant to understand nor able to.
And to attempt explaining the very beginnings in scientific language would have definitely lacked credibility in ancient, Old Testament times and the historians, scribes, etc. were most interested in relaying and recording the main messages and events witnessed by Christs’ disciples and friends, revelations of the prophets and major Biblical events anyway.
Just, lol, my replies are laughably off topic about “my new bf has a small penis”. But idc, your old post grabbed my attention after I read this girls’ question and while reading the comments. You can glean a lot about how people think from comments, so yes, I’m a comment reader, always.
Hey my penis is only 5 1/2″ long and about 2 1/2″ inches thick is that considered small ladies?
if you are distatisfied with your penis size, buy an extender, jelq, stretch, bathmate etc
you can whine about it, but you can do about it.
Just like you are fat, you hit the gym.
im slowly going towards 7′ where i started with 5,5
I had sex with both dicks, both sizes made my bedpartners cum
Takes a shitload of time tho
Thank god that not all women think that way, because my situation is EXACTLY the same. My girlfriend’s ex is 8″ & mine is 5″. She never mentioned it at first but I was on the same soccer team as him – he was renowned for his shlong. Eventually, I brought it up repeatedly – tortured by anxiety – & she admitted that his size made him amazing in bed but that she loved me so there was no choice. It still haunts me though – I don’t know what’s worse: women lying about size not mattering (except when they’re sniggering with their friends about a guy’s small cock) or putting everything in the open so everybody knows where everybody stands. Maybe getting well endowed to have BIG PRICK emblazoned on their foreheads would save everybody a lot of heartache.
Is your income/bank account bigger?
There is some interesting feedback here I must say. I am part of the small percentile fortunate enough to have a large member (a hair under 6″ flaccid and a hair under 9″ fully erect). I am 6 ft 4 and thin (although I have read height doesn’t matter with respect to penis sizes). I have been with the same girl for about 3 years now and needless to say, we have mind blowing sex, and she absolutely loves my member, as have most of the girls I’ve been with. Recently she told me she once blew off a guy roughly 1.5-2 inches larger than me and this has been bothersome, I feel like it has affected my pride, but to be honest, I really just take it out on her in the bedroom (guys, little advise, big or small, always put in 100% effort). I am not sure what the purpose of my post is but I just thought I would share, I have a feeling my girlfriend is a “big cock” lover and to be honest, those kind of girls do not make the best wife’s. I am concerned on a few levels but whatever, I have a very big dick and I guess I shouldn’t complain..
Oh and guys, size isn’t everything, my best friend has a small member and he has banged probably 70-80 woman in his life, confidence and hard work go a long way..
I’m about 5 1/4. Not big by any means and yes at times it has bothered me. My current girlfriend shows me so much affection it doesn’t matter. We talked about it openly once after she commented on a fantasy to feel a large penis. After getting over myself I decided to make it to a point of humor. If while walking together if we passed a man I’d say “did you just look at his crotch?”. Of course shed reply in shock. We’d tease each other and end up having mind blowing sex. I bought a large thick lifelike strap on and was able to use it on her once for about 10 seconds. It’s never been used again. She actually prefers what I have. She’s accustomed to it and orgasm regularly. So my advice is don’t ignore the elephant in the room. If it’s a deal breaker move on. Every one is different.
I have to say, reading these comments makes me so happy I’ve never married. The crap these guys put up with is insane. They have to work like dogs, never show any weakness, keep her juices flowing year in and year out..and in the end she leaves him or cheats for a dick that is two inches bigger? Really? My dick is 6.75 inches..its never been called small..but I know it’s not a monster. If some woman ever left me over the size of my penis..I would laugh. Seriously, I would find that shit funny. I mean, would you really want her as the mother of your kids if she is willing to do that? I just turned 40 and I treat women like disposable sex objects. That’s all they are to me at this point. A vessel for my pleasure to be cast aside when I am done using them. And to the woman above that mentions evolutionary biology..yeah we get it. Women are hypergamous..they want the alpha male for the thrill, but settle down with the beta to raise her kids ater she hits the wall in her thirties. Well..guess what sweetie? Men are waking up to the true nature of woman..and we dont want you. Alpha, beta, zeta..we simply dont want used up cock carousel riders for girlfriends or wives. Your partner should leave you, kids or not and count his blessings that he didnt get in any deeper with you. That poor bastard.
I hate when obviously “small” guys sit there like “some guy” and call women into question for being feminists, callus, demonic and irresponsible because we don’t want your smaller penis. I’m sorry what do any of those labels have to do with us as women and our personal preference? Men are all different sizes and so are women by trade.
I also have broken down my partner with my anger and sexual frustration for his smaller penis and premature problems. I feel like it’s a bad date and he has no idea how to be a dominant male, even before my outspoken feelings. I told him I won’t cheat and I mean that but I wish I could every day. I’m so horny and he is so not feeling my needs (yes, pun intended). Love is bullshit; it keeps you there while you keep yourself unhappy and unsatisfied. Why couldn’t he be dominant?! Why can’t his penis be larger?!
Our son is one and here we are in the shitty mess. We worked a lot before him and the shitty sex life was manageable but with the same problems as before in a smaller way. My doctor and other men before me told me I had a very tight bag one which is why we were ok before said kid but even after doing kegels I am still not really feeling him the way I want to. I DON’T care about length as much as girth because of what the article mentions for women. My vagina is not blown out or overly-gapped and even when I tell him that it could be me, he says “No……honestly, your vagina is still really tight; not as tight as before but still tighter than the girls before.” It isn’t a farce, I couldn’t even get a tampon up there before the laboring of my son…which is why we worked in the first place.
I can see why women cheat. I never knew the possible reasons for their unhappiness. Poor things. The guys want to think we are evil, but we are not, we are just deeply unsatisfied. When you know what satisfaction really is, it’s like be punished your whole life!
In evolutionary biology, we learned something some odd years ago that stuck with me. In lamest terms, women want high testosterone driven men with extreme sexual dimorphism to have sex with and bear the children while we prefer low testosterone, submissive males to care for the children and marry. So yeah, I guess we are bitches; we want the caring, “I’ll do anything for you guy (who is clearly compensating)” and the huge hulk of a man who can make you feel protected and satisfied with his demeanor and well ya know….hmmm.
It’s nature for women to want that and the reason both still exist and one group hasn’t been evolutionized (obviously not a real word) is because we want to feel love in both ways. We want it all in one man and I’ve been very close to one but he was still a dick, yes both literally and figuratively.
No real man wants to hear your “feminist” tripe. While you’re ranting about “gender equality” I’m being a naughty little submissive girl who begs your husband to put his 9″ up my ass and treat me rough at the same time. Oh and I’m a bi male, 7.5″ too. Learn your place, get to your safe space. “Feminists” have a magic ability to turn 8″ into 4.” Admit “gender equality is a myth” and watch it grow honey
I hate when obviously “small” guys sit there like “some guy” and call women into question for being feminists, callus, demonic and irresponsible because we don’t want your smaller penis. I’m sorry what do any of those labels have to do with us as women and our personal preference? Men are all different sizes and so are women by trade.
I also have broken down my partner with my anger and sexual frustration for his smaller penis and premature problems. I feel like it’s a bad date and he has no idea how to be a dominant male, even before my outspoken feelings. I told him I won’t cheat and I mean that but I wish I could every day. I’m so horny and he is so not working for me anymore. Love is bullshit; it keeps you while keeping yourself unhappy and unsatisfied. Why couldn’t he be dominant?! Why can’t his penis be larger?! Our son is one and before it was ok but it was never great….we franks little too much when we graduated college and voila. Our lives aren’t were we want them to be.
I can see why women cheat. I never knew the possible reasons for their unhappiness. Poor things. The guys want to think we are evil, but we are not, we are just deeply unsatisfied. When you know what satisfaction really is,it’s like be punished your whole life!
In evolutionary biology, we learned something some odd years ago that stuck with me. In lamest terms, women want high testosterone driven men with extreme sexual dimorphism to have sex with and bear the children while we prefer low testosterone, submissive males to care for the children and marry. So yeah, I guess we are bitches; we want the caring, “I’ll do anything for you guy (who is clearly compensating)” and the huge hulk of a man who can make you feel protected and satisfied with his demeanor and well ya know….hmmm.
It’s nature for women to want that and the reason both still exist and one group hasn’t been evolutionized (obviously not a real word) is because we want to feel love in both ways. We want it all in one man and I’ve been very close to one but he was still a dick, yes both literally and figuratively.
Woa Wilt! looks like having a small penis paid off for you!