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I’m goint to my boyfriend’s family’s house for Thanksgiving this year. We’re both 24, in grad school, have been dating for 8 months, are committed, plan on moving in together soon…in short, we’re adults. And we sleep together, in both senses of the word. My boyfriend has said there’s a good chance his conservative religious parents, who know all about the seriousness of our relationship, “won’t allow” us to sleep in the same room over Thanksgiving break. Now, I’m fine with a no sex in the house policy, but I think it’s ludicrous that we’ll have to sleep in different rooms (him most likely on the floor somewhere) when we’re both adults who do this ALL THE TIME. I’d like my boyfriend to defend our consensual adult relationship and insist we sleep (i.e. share unconsciousness) together under their roof, like normal modern people without weird irrational hangups, but he seems wishy washy. Am I out of bounds to suggest he at least try to gently talk some sense into them?
— Sleepover Sally