How Do You Know When a Relationship Is Ending?
Our friend Carrie asked us this question recently — for her, she says she knows the end is nigh when she starts feeling more self-conscious and uncomfortable around the guy. For her friend, it’s when she loses interest in PDA with the partner. How about you: What are your personal tell-tale signs that a relationship is winding down? Post your answers in the comments section below.
I few good signs are: When the other person no longer speaks to you in a respectful manner, communication stops or slow to a grinding halt and you have to find them when you never had to before because neither of your were never far. When the honeymoon is over, they now call touching base having to check in on a short leash and resent it. When before you couldn’t wait to talk to each other to share your day. Regardless of by phone or physical location.
In the first 6 months you are in the honeymoon stage and you will know what you are really getting by 6 months and if you see too many red flags, RUN FOREST RUN. Spend your time with someone that really wants you for you.
After being in a long distance relationship that was rekindled many years later, It was not hard to figure out it was over. It lasted only 5 months I I thought our initial love never stopped. We used to talk 3-5 times daily and text back and forth just saying hello to each other. I knew it was over when he started being annoyed when I would call him at the end of the day to say good night and he would pick fights when I didn’t call before. I never know what I needed to do not to fight with him. Come to find out he was married and juggled women a lot. He was really annoyed that I had the nerve not to want to be in a relationship with a married man. The nerve of me if I was really in love he says.
I think he will always be a player and does not have much respect for (women) relationships but somehow finds it easiers to blame his not wanting to be an honorable man on the other person. Besides if he took responsibility for his actions he’d have to fix them if they really mattered.
I have internal red flags that go off to warn me. I listened to them in this case and just observed until I had evidence before giving up. I think all of us have them and if we don’t pay attention to them we will have more headaches trying to keep a relationship than allowing it to naturally end due to incompatibility reasons.
The right person is out there for all of us but forcing someone to be the right person does not make it so.
when is it over? well when she goes two states away and spends thanksgiving for 4 days with her exhusband and kids and leaves you at home with no family to spend the holiday with ,and on day two shes drunk and here only him in the background at 1:00am telling her to hang up and does it!!!and she doesn’t call back for two hours and she was suposed tobe at a movie with a 9yr old and a 11 yr old ???????i aint ever got drunk in a movie with two small kids. what does a exhusband and wife do at 1:00am drinking ???? i know after three years when shes drunk she droppin panties around me? but 1month later she proved me right and went back to him …for the kids sake…bought a new lincon navigator and broke my christmas on her kids and hauled ass while i slept new years day!!!! thats over my freinds
I forgot to mention all while living under the same roof and sharing the same bed..you know it’s over.
When you have been married for 15 years and he wants you to change your personality,when he gets mad at you and does not speak to you or call you for a month (and counting), when he refuses to talk things over or listen, when everything becomes routine and when you do not look at each other with love anymore.
When you have to wait around to get a phone call from him or wait to see when he’ll ask when can i see you? If you have to wait for him to ask and it’s only when he wants then it’s over.
I did leave out a few things in the above
statement…I am a lesbian…we live together and our lease is up sept.2010
limited funds and ALOT of pain…Just dont know what to do….Ya i snooped and really wish i had not.but it just proved i was right..It just kills my heart…
I cant move but how do i distance myself
and still live where i am at till i can move on….please help me she is my first love… she realy doesnt like to talk about her feelings/emotions…i just want us to not walk away pissed and hurt….
My woman is still in love with her ex-…
I found this out by snooping…Should I confront her and or let it go knowing that she does not love me.. Or do I try to get her to open up and be honest to the both of us?……
Personal experience from my last relationship, you know its over when you completely don’t trust him anymore. Also your really not happy anymore, when he goes out every weekend “with the guys” – 100% he is cheating, took me 4 years to catch on! The last 2 years with him I just didn’t care what he did, I did not trust him one bit, and there was no romance what so ever, sex like once a week, if that. But now I don’t have nothing like this with my new man! =]
You say it’s over, but it is not really over. Your heart tells you different. The physical may be gone a little, but always can be rekindled. I have been married for 8 years, and my marriage has hit many hard times. My husband cheated for 2 years straight when we got married. True love will take hits, but it is well worth it. We are in love, and plan to stay in love. Forgiveness is the key. But willinging know where the problem lies and never return to that way of life. He is thankful every day I am still standing by his side.
This is the kick in the ass…. when your man let you speak to his bitch on the phone. The lies are bigger than king kong. He say he kiss her, she say they fuck in the car. Who do you really believe. He say, but he don’t love her, but he still see her and wants us to be friends. Hell no. I am a single lady now.
The love is over when you find another woman you lust over. What makes it so bad, you still love the person you are with, but she can’t stand your face anymore because she knows you want to get in somebody else panties and hers too. You know she is the best thing that has happen to you, and you still want somebody else. How many men are screwed up like me?
When you put your all in and get nothing back in return. Then the love turns to resentment.
You try talking and all it ends up in is an argument. One you are not to be herd, you don’t have an opinion because the other party just doesn’t care. That is when it is over. Trust Me… Communication goes along way, but willingness goes even further.
What use to be common interest seem to be all about Me’s… when you are no longer in the plans as stated before. When you find yourself in a situation that you need your partners help and they send someone else.
When they have been in one room for hours and you finally come in, then they walk out. When you can’t view or use there cell phone anymore. Auhhh there is that one. lol
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Good Luck hope you figure it out, it took me awhile.
if u think its over, then most likely its over. dont waste ur time making someone else a priority, always contacting them, always trying to make time to see them and constant arguing. i did it for two years & i was just left looking dumb after finding another girls socks on the side of his bed! So from personal experience communication is number one.
I think it’s over when your conversations are less than 15 minutes a week, the numerous texting dwindles and when you do talk, whether he calls or you call, he tells you that he will call you back. Understanding demands of running a business and going to school, if you don’t have SOME time to invest in a relationship, don’t get into one and say you are looking for a wife or a committed type of relationship. It’s DEFINTELY over when you call to break up with him and he says, I’ll call you right back. The answer is, you don’t have to call me back. I’m not perfect, but I almost thought something was wrong with me.