The movie What’s Your Number? (just released on DVD) is based on the totally annoying premise that a woman (played by the usually much funnier and better-than-this Anna Faris) freaks out when she reads a magazine article and discovers that her sexual body count (20) is twice the average. So she decides that rather than just carrying on with her dating and sex life like a normal human being, or becoming celibate, she will rifle through her exes to see if one of them could be The One — thereby not upping her number any further.
So, here’s our question for you: Do you (or did you ever) keep track of your “number”? Do you have it on the tip of your tongue? Could you work it out, if pressed? Were you ever bothered by your number (in either direction), or what other people might think of your number?
Leave your response in the comments section below (feel free to share your age, gender, relationship status, etc., if it’s relevant to your answer).
As a 23 year old female, mine is higher than is…socially acceptable I guess? I’m at 26, and I lost my virginity at 17. While some might say that’s pretty high for someone my age, I noted two things. 1) 2 of those guys were serious boyfriends, 2) The other guys I slept with because I wanted to. It’s kind of sad that men can have a high number and it’s celebrated but women are any where close and they are the biggest whores on the market. The fact is, I slept with these guys because I wanted to. Not for some unresolved attention or daddy issues. I happen to just like sex. Some of those decisions weren’t my greatest accomplishments, but I don’t regret any of those guys. Well, except one…but that’s only because he was DREADFUL.
Fact remains; a key that opens many locks is a master key, a lock which many keys have opened is a shitty lock and definitely not marriage material unless you can’t do any better and are willing to settle for less than ideal. What do you think will be first preference for anyone? Risk of STI much? Trust dirty people to tell you about their herpes? Don’t!
Your analogy is wrong. Why do you equate the key with the male and the lock with the female? Would you give men the same warnings (STI) that you are giving to women? Why not reverse it and say the male is the lock and the female is the key? Is it because you assume that most males are looking for sex while most females are trying to AVOID it? That is obviously not the case.
My number is around 70, covering approximately an 11 year period to age 29. What warnings would you give me?
Never thought about it or considered it in the least bit important.
My wife and I once had a discussion about the number, and realized we were defining it differently. I was counting sexual intercourse only; she counted that, but also counted a number of people who were “other” sexual acts only (handjobs, oral, etc.). Took us awhile to reconcile our approaches….
6. I’m about to be 30, but my number’s been the same since I was 18. I’ve been with number 6 forever and intend to keep it that way, so unless some threesomes come along I don’t imagine it’ll be going up.
His number is higher so at times I’ve felt like he had more life experience than me and like maybe I missed out on something… BUT I’ve come to terms with that because it really doesn’t matter.
10. I feel like that’s pretty high, given that I was monogamous with one of them from age 19 to age 34.
I don’t think it matters, though; especially once someone is in their 30’s or so, you can’t tell ANYTHING from a person’s number. It could be high because of a series of LTR’s or because of a promiscuous youth; it could be low because of longer relationships. It doesn’t reflect experience.
18. I was 18 when I lost my virginity, it’s been 18 years since then and the guy I am seeing at the moment is #18. I’m not reading too much into this whole thing, it’s just a funny coincidence.
Mind you, I was married for 7 years, he and I were together for 10 years altogether.
upwards of 50 at 29. well above average apparently but not for the people i associate with so who knows? i don’t care to know a girls # either way and will only tell a girl if i’m really really into her and it will take a long time before i share that with her. by that time we will have already had sex so whats it matter? nothing shes going to be able to do about it
5 – I’ve almost always lied about it (macho pressure to have a higher number). A few years ago I told my wife and her reaction was “thats all?”, she also let on that her number was higher (no specifics, thank god). This stands to reason because she is hotter than me, so I wasnt surprised. Had I any modicum of social skills, no doubt my number could be a little higher – but alas… Now that I’m married and in my 30’s, I’m absolutley fine with it as it is. And that feels good.
5 and of those 5 one was a LTR. I hope my number goes much higher and consists mainly of casual sex. That would be awesome.
So after reading all these other comments I don’t know if I want to publish my #… but in interest of showing no shame and female empowerment it is somewhere upwards of 20.
I haven’t created a list in a while because I seem to have lots of casual flings in between boyfriends. I enjoy sex and am safe so I don’t really see an issue with it.
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12.
I lost my virginity one month prior to turning 18 yrs old. My first three were with boyfriends. The third guy n I had a rocky split. I ended up experimenting and getting a little too wild. Thank God that phase is in the past.
I’m now 21, with my dream guy in a healthy n serious relationship. Hoping things keep my number right where it is!
Honestly, I feel more pressure to lie about my number because I’ve only slept with one person, and plan to. When I say this, I typically have to defend my choice: no, I don’t feel like I’m “missing out;” no, I don’t think sleeping with more men would make me wiser or mature; yes, I really do feel satisfied and, after four years of great sex, predict that such feelings will continue. I know in my mother’s generation it was sort of a goal, but now, if you haven’t slept with more than one person, people act like you’re missing something big and that you’re a total prudish, backward (probably *gasp* Christian!), limited human being. I’m not any of those things. I think having as many partners as you want is a wonderful thing, be it none or two hundred. For me, at this point in time, I want one. I have one. I’m happy. And this long tirade is just proof of how, again, I felt the need to defend myself. But that was basically my point.
10, counting threesome ladies 😉
8 = 4 boyfriends + 4 not
i’ll probably lie about the non-boyfriends, though i hate the idea of lying. this feels like a high number to me based on stats. i’m definitely not marrying one of these 8, because the best (guys & sex for that matter) were the boyfriends that are married now anyway. boo hoo.
Not a problem: 8. Counting the guy I spent three nights with but only did heaviest petting, not counting one guy with whom I just snogged (do you still say that?) and whom I grabbed into their pants. And I hope (having been in a relationship for over 4 years now) that it stay exactly that number (assuming that I’ll spend the rest of my life with HIM).
When I was 18, I was quite bothered by my number, as it was 0. But as soon as I got a taste of it, I wanted more, and when I wanted sex, I got it. I’m not exactly modellike (from my outer appearance), but I’m pretty and I’m frank about what I want. Sex was usually with guys I had known before for quite some time (friends, acquaintances) and with whom I had talked about it in general terms. We just had some good conversations about it and decided that it might be fitting to try it out together.