The movie What’s Your Number? (just released on DVD) is based on the totally annoying premise that a woman (played by the usually much funnier and better-than-this Anna Faris) freaks out when she reads a magazine article and discovers that her sexual body count (20) is twice the average. So she decides that rather than just carrying on with her dating and sex life like a normal human being, or becoming celibate, she will rifle through her exes to see if one of them could be The One — thereby not upping her number any further.
So, here’s our question for you: Do you (or did you ever) keep track of your “number”? Do you have it on the tip of your tongue? Could you work it out, if pressed? Were you ever bothered by your number (in either direction), or what other people might think of your number?
Leave your response in the comments section below (feel free to share your age, gender, relationship status, etc., if it’s relevant to your answer).
I am 28 and guess my number to be at about 35 over half of these guys and girls are in the last 18 months.
I was ashamed until I recently met a guy (I was his fourth) he was so turned on by my experience. I know own it. Without this I may not have hit on him, he was a great lay and we will see each other again next time he is in town.
I dont feel that numbers count for anything, and anyone that puts to much thought into it is not worth it.
Hmmm.. been years since i kept count but i think its at least 15 but i suspect closer to 20 or more even.. 5 of whom were boyfriends.. 1 my husband (ex).. a couple were girls.. and the majority of the rest were casual flings during or between relationships so i don’t have names etched in my memory
I have no shame and no need for shame. I have lived an adventurous, fun, and disease-free life. I’m worldly and experimented with different guys that caught my eye. I lost my virginity at 17. I am now 27. My number is 74.
I’m 21 and I can count about 28 that are just sexual intercourse only. But I’m pretty sure that I’m forgetting a few so we’ll put the number at about 30ish. I lost my virginity at 13. I don’t think it’s a particularly high number but it isn’t exactly low either.
I do say my number’s way lower though because of the stigma of a woman having a lot of sexual partners. To everyone I know my number’s been at 8 for the past 3 years ehehe
You’re fooling no one. Hah
I’m 22 and my number is 9…. I really hate it, especially since i’ve never climaxed…. I personally feel like it’s high but i’ve never had any complaints, especially since I still feel like a virgin “down there”. The reason I hate it so much is because I was young and dumb, actually believing that these guys loved me… Two of them were a 1 time thing, each with guys I had been talking to for about 3 months before it happened and they convinced me to do it using lies and deceit. The one i’m with now I know it’s love and I don’t plan on my number getting higher.
I am 33 years old women. I lost my virginity at 16. My number is 7. Yes at times I have been embarrassed as I thought it was a high number. I was raised being told that good girls don’t. Sometimes I wish I didn’t have sex so early because I wasn’t ready. The 1st two times was because I wanted him t like me. Later I realized I was worth more than that and I should only have sex with someone because I wanted to and because I love them. I am now happily married for 2 years so my number is staying at 7.
One for me (lost virginity first year of uni at 18, married him 8 years later). Like some of the people with one above, I also felt the pressure to lie and make it higher!
I figured I would admit,…I count 23. I am remarried but the period between being divorced and finding my new husband I think I felt this need to prove to myself I could act like a guy because my ex-husband was a cheater and a sex addict. So I dated and I had friends with benefits, because they count don’t they? I don’t think being sexual is bad. I think to many woman lie about how many they have been with because of the stereotype of being called a slut, but guys are doing it all the time and its different. There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting sex and getting off. There is no reason to feel your dirty for being driven to get laid. Or perhaps I am just one of the little few woman that doesn’t have to get emotionally caught up in the guy I have sex with, that I can see it as a sexual adventure and be done with that.
I’m 20 years old, and I lost my virginity at age 14. Since then, my sexual partners have consisted of 5 LTR, 1 FWB, and 3 one-nighters (one of those was a 3some, so I guess that could be 4 one-nighters.) So if you want to get technical, I’ve had 10 partners. However, I only count and will only admit to having 6 (LTRs and FWB). This is because to me, if there was no emotional connection (and no “finishing”) it wasn’t real. In my mind, that’s how I define sex (and sexual partners.) It’s a physical and emotional thing.
Wow i really feel i need to lie but i dont because i feel what i have done shouldnt define me…my number is 90 something but i’ve been with my husband a year and only him i dont cheat
I’m at 10, and that’s after getting married as a virgin at 22. I’ve been very preoccupied with my number, because among my peer group it’s a badge of honor or a mark of loser-hood. My office-mate started keeping track after his divorce in 2000, with the goal of hitting 50 by 2010. He missed the mark by 2, but has since made up for it. I was hoping to add #11 in 2011, but toward the end of the year, I realized how arbitrary and dumb that is. I’m not a jock or a frat boy, but the status accorded to ‘cocksmen’ and my own insecurity and self-consciousness definitely contributed to a preoccupation with the number of ‘conquests’ I could claim.
Oh, and I forgot to mention- we’ve been married for 6 years this year!
One for me, and one for my husband. How awesome that neither one of us has to worry about being ‘compared’ to a past sexual experience! Do I feel like I’m missing out? Absolutely not- just missing out on the baggage I could have brought into this relationship. No worries about him being faithful to me since he was able to wait for me and with me until we were married- what a beautiful thing!
I’m currently sleeping with #8, and he’s my first true sexual relationship. I’m not uncomfortable with my number b/c i believe that people should have sex whenever they want with whoever they want regardless of perceived social norms.
HOWEVER, I do recognize that my history is very unusual in that my number doesn’t accurately reflect my level of sexual experience. I only had sex one time each with numbers 1 through 7. Not necessarily by choice – it just worked out that way. #2 was a summer vacation fling that lasted a week – we had sex on his last night in town, but the rest were one-night stands – including the night i lost my virginity at 19).
So in other words, before I started seeing #8 two months ago, I had only had sex a total of 7 times.
Granted, that is 7 times spread out over 4 years (Sex less than 2X a year is practically celibacy, right?). So who can fault me for getting some when I could?
So yes, I do expect my number to keep climbing, but I think my story accurately illustrates why this whole concept of having a “number” is totally bogus.
1 for me. I lost it in my first semester of college to my boyfriend of 3 months. We’re still together, and it’s been almost 2 years. I might sound naive, but I hope it stays 1 forever.