Wise Guys: What Do Men Think About Female Ejaculation?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men think about female ejaculation?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

anonymous_suitStraight Married Guy (Figleaf): Good question but hard to answer. I think the most important thing you can say about female ejaculation is that the best-selling book that introduced the idea of G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation, The G Spot: And Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality, has a whole chapter devoted to the principle that “the best is the enemy of the good.” The authors worried specifically that if people obsess over having or (worse, I think) giving G-spot orgasms, they’re likely to wind up disappointed with their ordinary old eye-rolling, breathtaking, toe-curling ones.

I’ve had sex with a couple of partners who “squirt” at least some of the time. And while obviously everyone’s mileage varies, I never got the impression from them that those orgasms were any more enjoyable, or less, than the “regular” kind.

Straight Single Guy (David Grossman): Female ejaculation is the greatest compliment a woman can give to her partner. It doesn’t take much to make a man climax, but being able to make a woman ejaculate is a skill and an honor.

joel_derfner_100Gay Married Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Ew.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. David Grossman recently graduated from Stony Brook University in New York; this week’s Gay Married Guy is Joel Derfner, author of Swish; and our Straight Married Guy is Figleaf, the guy behind RealAdultSex.com. To ask the guys your own question, click here.


  1. It is absolutely a beautiful and most gorgeous phenomenon, to achieve and experience this wonderful experience is enlightening,fulfilling,one of life’s most gorgeous experiences

  2. Hi
    I was told about squirtin,bt nva experienced it,I hav seen it happen in porn movies,bt I found it a bit embarrasing,bt wen I realised dat he was ok wid it,I seem 2 b ok wid wid it evry tim he entered me tink I squirtd ova 25 times,some we’re forceful some we’re a smal stream,I jus wana here 4rm my partner how he feels.

  3. Hey all
    I’m female and during my first orgasms which were on my own I always ejaculated, at the time I didn’t really know a great deal about it, after a while it became less common and would only happen on my 4/5th multiple orgasm, I didn’t think it could happen during sex because I didn’t really enjoy sex much,
    I had completely forgot about it and hadn’t had an ejaculation for years when whilst having sex on a one time off with an ex partner I was ontop when I ejaculated,
    he’d never known that it happened and accused me of urinating on him lol I was so confused that I actually started to believe that maybe that’s what it was

    my new partner however is quite experienced and he lasts a long time but I would normally stop the sex and say that I felt like I needed to go the bathroom, when going to the bathroom I didn’t actually need to pee
    he realised what was going on and talked to me about whether I had ejaculated before because he’d read somewhere that it felt like you needed to go the bathroom during sex, I told him that I hadn’t done it in a long time but I had done it
    he got really excited about it, he said that he loved them but no one he had been with had ever been able to do it, he spent a good bit of time telling me about how to make it easier to happen and how bad he wanted to see it
    when we finally got down to actually doing it I think he enjoyed it more than I did 🙂
    I guess it depends on the guy when it comes to it but it is rather messy, messier than the males ejaculation,
    I think if you compare it to how a girl would feel if a guy ejaculated on her then there would be some girls that say hell no and some girls that don’t mind

  4. I think that a Lady ejaculating is wonderful. It is not only a unique and special expression of the Goddess “Within” but it is also, a means to for the Lady to experience, heightened, full-body-pleasure!

    Ps…I am so glad that women can feel good about exploring, experimenting, and discovering new ways of sharing their sexuality.

    There is a book that is called: The Masseur by author John M. Martin that has two steamy scenes, with a Lady named SuSan, who ejaculates all over the masseur’s face and neck.

    Pss…There is a 11 page free preview of the book at: LuLu . c o m

  5. my BF loves when i squirt (more like a gush really) i am 38 and had only done this once before with a guy i was dating. I was so embarrassed…at first i thought i had no bladder control. Last night my boyfriend was so turned on by this!! i find it more of a mess than a turn on, but the g-spot orgasm is AMAZING, and it makes it special because my guy loves it so much. 🙂 – now i am just trying to learn how to actually control it!

  6. My favorite squirting aid is our “Liberator Through blanket” We ordered it from an online store and it is amazing! It’s made for squirting sex, it has a waterproof barrier in the middle with a silky covering on one side of the barrier and a plush covering on the other side for you to choose the side you like most. It looks like a sexy blanket that you just through on your bed. What I like is that it almost covers our queen size mattress entirely, this allows my wife to squirt crazy far and in different positions.

  7. Friends! We have solved the mess problem! I mean come on, when you are a gusher or you sleep with a gusher, there is new meaning to the term wet spot! Towels can soak through.
    The thing that works is a product designed for incontinent rabbits – a soft, quilted cotton pad with a soft waterproof material on the reverse side, completely washable about a yard square, holds 2 cups liquid!
    We keep one by the bed or folded under the pillow and lay it across a chair to dry after use before going in the wash. This product can be purchased for around $20.00 at the site http://catfaeries.com

  8. I squirt and personally I hate it I just wanna b normal!! Some guys hate it as well. To me I guess its a bit of a curse
    its every single time 🙁

  9. I am 20 and a squirter and i never know how to tell my partners about this, i find it embarrising to say it before we do the deed and soorta makes me feel all selfconsious about it afterwords. its even more embarrising to me if it happens during and seeing their stunned faces. i cant read if they liked it or not, they always smirk and i dont know if its a disgusting smirk or a happy one. i do love my orgasms but sometimes when i dont know the guy or trust him yet id wish i wouldnt flood my juices all ovr him

  10. Hello everyone. I recently discovered a dee months ago that I am one of the very lucky women who can experiance female ejaculation(squirting)!!!! And its the best thing ever and my boyfriend loves it. The orgasm is explosive as well as mind blowing!

  11. I am a 41 yr old woman and I just had my first ejaculation yesterday. It was by far the best, mind-blowing experience of my life. I actually had to read on it to find out what is was that I did. Squirting is my new drug. I am addicted and want more of those kind of orgasms… My partner was equally delighted to know that he was indeed my 1st to make me squirt. Now I wasnt to experiment with my partner or by myself to kind that special little button that turned on the water works.

  12. Seriously the first time I ever heard about squirting, I basically made it my mission to learn how to get myself to do it. One of my friends got me the butterfly vibrator for my 20th birthday and after using that a few times it didn’t take me long to learn. So far a partner has never made me orgasm or squirt, but I’m looking to see if someone can push my buttons just right.

  13. My wife started squirting about 4 years ago…she was about 40 at the time. Like Renee’s husband I can’t get enought of it!! It’s just such a turn on not only that I can get her that excited but also that she is comfortable enough to let go. It’s the most amazing thing. It is definitely NOT pee. My wife will squire sometimes 5-6 times in an hour…sometimes it’s just squirt after squite. Usually from rubbing her clit really fast. My wife can squit from both g-spot and clitoral stimulation and after she is really aroused, just from pinching her nipples and squeezing her breasts. She doesn’t seem to squirt during intercourse anc can squirt on her own.

    Squirting is definitely real and I am so lucky that my wife can…and that I can to that to her.

  14. I have never squirted. I have had a couple partners ask me for it, but neither of them have ever helped me work toward it. Im not even sure if I have the ability. I have a toy that is meant for G spot stimulation but it doesn’t do much for me besides give me a slight feeling of having to pee. Regular orgasms came easily for me starting at the age of 11, and I guess I thought that if I could squirt it would come just as easily.

    I can’t say that I actively try to do it, I don’t much care for it or feel like I NEED to do it. In my experience, men find it hot because it’s something “different” and then of course there’s the visual aspect of it. Im alright with not being able to/not knowing how to squirt. Haven’t had anyone kick me out of bed for not being able to, so unless someone comes around willing to work with me and help me do it, I am fine with what others may see as a “shortcoming.”

  15. I must say I am 39 years old and I have been squirting since I was 18. I’m married and my husband just can’t seem to get enough of it. Sometimes it happens 3 to 4 times a session. However, it is very messy and I could live without it but my husband loves it. We go through bed linens several a week. It is actually getting to the point that I don’t even need penetration to squirt. Just nipple stimulation. I love my husband and our very sexual relationship. Wet sheets are a small price to pay for an awesome lover and wonderful husband.

  16. I am 57 and had my first female ejaculation last night with my 32 year old lover. Fortunately he is experienced and intuitive and generally wonderful, and I feel safe with him. He has taken me with him into all kinds of new lovemaking experiences. It was different to my usual clit orgasm, but now I have both options. Fantastic.

  17. this is a fabulous convo going on here; im loving it:-P i am now 28 and was luckly “educated” by an exgf at a crisp young age of 18. i was slightly taking back when she gave me 5 seconds warning while laying on my microswade lazyboy (b**ch) lol. she was a “regular” and well intune w her body. i have since been with around 80 women. n i would like to state that just about every woman can do it if the effort and skills are applied.. although there are several contributing factors that lead a successful virgin squirt. most importantly (imo) relaxing and not trying to grab the first orgasmic feeling that comes your neglected way is paramount. but once you have figured out your body it can happen any which way.

    Id like to say F**Kyou/Thankyou to those selfish guys out there not pleasing the population 🙂 did it never occur to them if you take care of the misses the misses will take care of you!!!!??? (brings a tear to my eye)

    women out there PLEEEASE dont be embarrassed, although its not a bad idea giving a new partner the heads up, what comes outta you is not pee and is soooo delicious 😛 BTW i swallow LMAO

    although i cant claim to make every girl squirt in under 30sec like mob. i have a pretty open and educated mind and wouldn’t be against giving lessons..

    IMO a woman hasnt climaxed until she has squirted

  18. To mob…maybe give lessons to those willing to learn 😉 I do agree trusting fully does play a part if in a serious/committed relationship but if not or don’t want one…just for fun someone like mob would be on my speed dial! Lol!!

  19. P.S. bravo “iamtrulove” well stated re: “reader”!! Obvious he hasn’t read enough!! :-[ Also bravo to you guys that love enough to want to please & enjoy it!!

  20. Omg the mixed reviews on this is fascinating & appauling to me. “Reader” I am so glad I don’t know you! You should seriously be embarassed about your lack of knowledge regarding this topic. I feel sorry for any lover you may ever have, if any. Now that I have gotten that off my chest!! Female ejaculation is awesome thing. Every lover I have squirted with have loved it & have said it was the hugest turn on they have experienced. Those of us who have experienced it know how fortunate we are to either have loving or skilled partners who either have knowledge or willing to learn about truly pleasing. I also didn’t know about this amazing “gift” until I had a lover in my 40’s that taught me there was more to an orgasm than the clit. I have since found that some penis’s are perfect for me. Size does matter but too long or too short doesn’t work. The head size to me is what matters & also for me being on top & working it sends me to a whole different level! I can squirt in excess of a dozen or more times providing I’m hydrated. Never in the morning. If my lover doesn’t have that perfect size I have had some lovers who learned to do it manually. It takes practice & trust. I hope that some day this “mysterious” gspot will not be such a debate & every female has lovers or finds lovers or toys to experience the orgasmic pleasure. Open your mind to great possibilities! A closed one is like a closed parachute…you will crash. Trust me…so will your relationship. Signed: happily flooding

  21. I have made my wife squirt many times and I think it is AWESOME. If she doesn’t squirt it doesn’t mean that she isn’t satisfied nor am I. Matter of fact my wife thinks it’s great too that she can do it for me. And if she doesn’t, it doesn’t mean that she wasn’t satisfied. Whether she squirts or not, we’re both always satisfied. For those guys who think it can’t be done or don’t like it then I have only one thing to say to you…shut up because you’re GAY! God Bless you women that can squirt for yourself or for your partner.

  22. Oooooooooo. Just read the post from “reader on June 2nd. I hope you come back to read what a total idiot you are. You obviously have never brought a woman to this level. Sorry for u .. but don’t go spouting off on something you obviously know nothing about. I can gush cup loads over and over and Still go into to the bathroom to pee. Btw. Men can achieve squirting as well. I know .. my lover has..it wasn’t cum. It was squirt.

  23. I’ve alway been highly orgasmic woman… But I had never heard of or had a Female orgasm.(I’m 48.)…until I met the love of my life ….my soul mate…. my sexual equal….. I agree it is the most amazing gift….. I feel so empowered. It’s a whole heightend level of intimacy… I am his Goddesses. His Queen.. When it’s over I am weak and vaulrable and he praises me and loves me tells me how beautiful I am.. often I am brought to tears from the sheer force of exticy. The ability to achieve this has changed me forever…. I hope it will for you all as well. 🙂

  24. Honestly, guys, think about it-could you pee while you are having an orgasm?

    According to hubby, it smells sweet like clover, and I tend to agree with him. If you are interested in doing this, invest in a g-spot dildo and experiment with it. The key for me, however, is TRUST in my partner.

  25. what u guys fail to realize that a soaked mattress is a bitch to dry out, and catching a cold by laying in a cold puddle isn’t so thrilling. sure its nice but isn’t it the same as piss minus the smell. you get a warm sensation and its sorta like being under a sprinkler..or mist machine….or in my case a running bathtub faucet. yea its cool and i like it but i wouldn’t mind limiting it to once or twice a month. and pray my girl doesn’t read this

  26. I’m 38. When I was much younger and experimenting with myself/looking for the elusive g-spot- I could count on some fluid coming out. It wasn’t urine. I sort of forgot about that whole phase once I became sexually active. That is, until I met my current boyfriend.

    I’d say 50% of the time I ejaculate when we have sex. I’ve had many sex partners and this has not happened with another person before.

    My observations:
    – I am totally comfortable, relaxed and unself-conscious with him.
    – We enjoy a lot of foreplay and don’t rush.
    – I never think about it happening. It either does or it doesn’t. It doesn’t feel any better when I DO squirt. Essentially, It’s more of a visual/sensory turn on and does not always accompany an orgasm. It generally precedes one.
    – It only happens after switching from one position to him on top and having my legs pushed back behind my head(I assume that narrows the vagina).
    – I don’t know… It’s sort of messy, feels good while it’s happening but not worth seeking out.
    – The main thing is to be with someone you’re comfortable with. You never know what might happen.

    ps- I make sure to pee beforehand just because the two spots are so close together.

  27. I never started squirting until I was pregnant. I was always fairly sexually active and definitely multi orgasmic. But ever since I had my kid, I squirt almost every time I have sex, several times. Sometimes during orgasm, sometimes just before or after. I almost always put a towel down, because I literally soak the sheets. I’m probably abnormal, since I usually orgasm within 5 minutes of starting intercourse, and about 15-20 more times in my typical 30-45min session. I’m don’t have urinary incontinence, and I squirt with almost anyone I’m with, one night stand or regular partner, and it happens in almost any position you can think of…so for those of you men who think you are all that, maybe its not always you. And ladies, I feel that for the most parts, my orgasms were just as good before I started squirting, so if you can’t do it, it’s not the end of the world. But female ejaculation DEFINITELY EXISTS.

  28. It’s not pee. In fact, there is no urine sunstance in squirting, even tho it does come from the same spot.
    I beieve every woman can do it. I just did it 2 times tonight with my boyfriend. Fisting is the best way.. and to be really relaxed. But find out if he likes it first. I didn’t know. But afterwards, i found out he did.lol. Thank God. But it does make you exhausted afterwards, like male ejaculation. So men, comfort your woman afterwards if its their first time. The first time can be humiliating for us. But if we know its a huge turn on, it makes us feel better.

  29. Not a real thing, and when it happens it’s urinary incontinence more than any thing else, Skene’s gland is reposnible for lubricating and cleansing the urethera and vestibule and not for ejaculation as it does not contain any space to store the secretions, unlike male prostate which is made to store the prostatic fluid and to contract during ejaculation. It’s a problem that afflicts many who claim that ejaculate that is they can’t control their urinary sphincter during orgasm. Its been proven when a urinary catheter was connected to the urethera, and all the fluid that came out was through the bladder during orgasm for women who suffered from that symptom. All those who gave opinions on it including females are not scientifically oriented.

  30. It’s not really a skill or a technique at least I don’t think. I think knowing the lay of the land helps and being open to exploring what feels good to her is important. I’ve always been a ehem juicy lover but wasn’t too much of a squirter. I could always feel my body building and I’d get to the point my body felt covered in icy hot and I’d hold back. After our 14 year run together and having always had a vigorous sex life something just clicked in me that said just enjoy it and let it all go. You know feel the moment and let it wash over you (some pun intended). My husband and I had been working each other over as he likes to delay things a little to make the final moment last. He had gone from penetrating me to oral and I just let myself enjoy the moment and came all over his face. I was a little freaked out ya know embarrassed but damned if he didn’t just dive in. When we went back to penetration I just rode that wave of damn this feels good and it was honestly the biggest orgasm we had both experienced well to that date. My suggestion is don’t hold yourself back your lover is exactly that and wants to please you just as much as they want to be pleased. And remember eating fruit is your friend great for your skin and like with mens sperm women’s ejaculatory fluids can pick up ‘flavor’ think fresh pineapple or sweet peaches. And I must say it is something that doesn’t happen all the time though sometimes when you have sex multiple times a day after you get one good gush there’s bound to be another. I know sometimes my hubby doesn’t want to get covered in sploosh so during those mid day quickies I hold back sometimes I think it’s the worst torture ever but during the wee hours of the morning when I’m free … Let it be. A great trick for holding back is to keep up with kagels. Make them part of your daily routine but don’t over due it you don’t want to crush anything. Practice them during sex you’ll find just the right time and way to ‘grip’ for even more arousal not just for him but for you. Sex … I could go on and on.

  31. Oh and to Victoria, I fully disagree. Most girls I’ve made squirt didn’t know they could or only have once or twice and didn’t realize what was going on. Most girls can not do it themselves but I can make the girls squirt on command. So in that case, it is skill because they can’t make their self squirt so they call me specially cause I can make them squirt. Even girls that know what I’m doing can not explain to their next partner so he can do it, so they always come back to me. They know its a button and I’m very good at finding the button and hitting it just right to make every girl squirt. I’m a guy and it’s really crappy to still hear the stories where guys are all about themselves in bed. Makes me think of how disappointed their wives are in bed. I read how guys can make their girl squirt but on command if a whole different ball game…that’s where it takes time to master 🙂

  32. The girls that don’t enjoy a squirting orgasm means they are getting the best of it. I consider my self a master of giving a girl the best orgasm of their life! I can do it on command and to every woman. My record is 1.5 seconds! Next one is 3 seconds. 10 seconds is pretty normal. I’ve counted and given girls 30 second gushing waterfall orgasms. They beg for it, they want me to do it over and over again! My partners are 100% confident they will have several squirting orgasms in one session! Its super simple to do and everyone acts like its a strange mystery…I’ve been told by several women to insure my fingers because they are magic fingers and they don’t want anything to happy to my precious hands! A true compliment…I aim to please cause that’s our jobs guys! Get a hint!

  33. I’ve been squirting my whole life. Before I was sexually active, I could achieve this. After becoming sexually active, I only started squirting with a partner who could do it to me. Now that I’ve recognized and understood what is going on in my body, its almost impossible not to ejaculate when I orgasm! Its practically a problem because it is so messy. Ladies, if you’re having trouble, just relax as much as possible and practice. Let your partner know what works. Then blow him away with your newfound power! But be careful, wate r loss is a serious issue in this department, and all the excessive moisture is a breeding ground for unfriendly bacteria. The biggest thing to remember is that you’re not going to pee.your body is in “sex” mode. many women confuse the pressure previous to ejacuation with needing to urinate because we were conditioned to expect pee when we were children and were potty trained. It is indeed not a myth! From an experienced ejaculator

  34. I couldn’t agree more with you Victoria. It is absolutely true for me that I can only orgasm when I have ‘let go’ and that means I must trust my partner. I have never had any orgasms with any men apart from my current boyfriend and he has the smallest penis of all of them. I find it sad that women are feeding into this myth that men have to have 8 inches and this magical ‘skill’. It is nothing to skill! Technique is something you should negotiate with your partner but ultimately if a woman trusts her partner she is much more likely to orgasm.

  35. It’s interesting how many men think it’s their skill that somehow makes a woman have orgasm (never mind ejaculate). The truth is that a woman has to truly “let go” to orgasm. She will let go if she TRUSTS her partner. If she feels nurtured and nourished emotionally in a relationship, she is more likely to completely let go. That’s why most women who squirt with masturbation dont always do in a relationship. In discussion with girlfriends we’ve come to the same conclusion – we only give 100% sexually when we know he is committed 100% to our wellbeing through good times & bad. So it’s really not about the size of the penis or technique guys. It’s about your relationship skills. That can be a good thing guys. 🙂

  36. It is nice when it happens but so is any orgasm, or so my partner tells me. She also is able to ejaculate occasionally, but has no real control over how and when.

  37. Hello… Yes, it very much exists, for around 20 years in my case! Dont ask me how its done or why we seem to be in the minority because i dont know! It is lovely when it happens especially if you are aware your partner finds it a turn on.. I tend to pre-warn as i gather its not for everyone, but i have never had any negativity about it. Saying that i would really like to point out that i have also had the most mindblowing & enjoyable sex without it happening at all, there are different types of orgasm & wouldnt like to think any man out there is beating himself up because his partner doesnt produce the wet stuff! I can honestly say its just different, not better than a “normal” orgasm… So go forth & please your ladies without the added pressure!

  38. I am a squirter, so for those who doubt it, it’s real!
    It is an amazing experience, I first did it masturbating and was embarrassed by it, but I knew it wasn’t urine. Then I could only achieve it when riding until I met a guy who is very skilled and aware of female pleasure zones. My advice to all that feel pressured to achieve it is to loosen up and open your mind to it. Enjoy!

  39. the first time i ever ejaclated my husband was so happy. he wanted me to have one every single time we have sex. at first i was embarassed and worried that something was wrong with me. but after read other women experiencing this, it is a sexual exciting to make my husband feel great and he makes me feel great also. it happens when he gives me oral too. ladies it is great, and i am in my early 40’s. so every women can have one, just be upfront with your partner and experiment on different things and tell them what makes you climax, talking and communicating with them is the key. happy sexual events in your lives.

  40. How ignorant of you. Of course women can ejaculate. At least most women can. I made my girlfriend do it just the other night and she’s made me do it before too. I think it’s great. Makes me feel accomplished almost.

  41. c’mon – theres no such thing as female ejaculation-you can get wet as hell,but there is no physical “seeing” evidence of a womans ejaculate. i know its a womans world out there, but you come by nerve endings only. so quit magnafying this old wives tale and accept it for what it is. ’nuff said-period.

  42. Female Ejaculation is the utmost selfless act that a woman can give her partner. There is no denying that she been sexually satisfied. It is beautiful when my wife ejaculates. She is in a whole new world when she cums like that either by clitoris or intercourse. It’s simply amazing. Thanks for letting me share my prospective on the matter. Happy Female Ejaculation Everyone! : )

  43. I personally don’t like women who squirt. I don’t find it exciting or feel validated sexually if a woman does that when she is with me.

    When a woman squirts it is not as lubricated, it always seems to take away from the connection we are having because she is shooting this liquid all over my pelvic area and I just don’t really care for it, it actually turns me off. To me, when a woman squirts she is metaphorically dousing the fire that was created between us.

    I would even stop seeing a girl who squirts, there are plenty of other men out there who would appreciate her for that but not me.

  44. Ahh, getting your lady to experience the squirts. Most men don’t have a clue. I have had the pleasure of being with more than one who could do that. For me it is the most fantastic feeling. I think a lot of women are too uptight about sex to be able to let loose and experience this. I’ve been with women who said I was a pervert for wanting to be just a little kinky and straying away from missionary. Let your hair down ladies when having sex. You just might enjoy it more! I was married to a lady who could soak the entire bed, good thing it was a waterbed. lol

  45. I always thought the female ejaculation was a porn trick and not something that happened in reality. I noticed guys posting on adult sites seeking women that were capable of it because they wanted to be a part of it too. It was an urban legend to them too.
    Then I came across a man that told me it’s all in what knowledge the man possesses and that every woman is capable of it at the right hands. Fantastic! I no longer needed to think I was an orgasm failure for not being able to experience it, I was just with clueless men.

    From the personal experience that followed, I concur. The man is the one that needs to know what he is doing to please the woman to make female ejaculation a reality for her. I’ve been with one man skilled enough to make it happen and he blew me away. I didn’t think I had anything left to learn about my body but I was wrong. So all you men that want to be with a woman that experiences such an orgasm I suggest you do a lot of research and take it upon yourself to make it happen… all she needs to do is relax and enjoy the ride.

    Knowledgable men get rewarded, lazy and stupid ones do not.

  46. You know, David also just put it entirely on the guy to be able to do it. Since it’s so easy to get a guy off and all, and women are just so hard to figure out. We don’t come with blueprints or a handbook or a legend or anything. I like to think of as Manifest Destiny. Well, Womanfest Destiny. If you make it to the ocean, you’ve proved yourself an experienced explorer endowed with strength and integrity; but if you die trying to ford a river, you’re just an idiot who didn’t know to bring an extra pair of wellies.

    From now on, I’m just going to assume that if I don’t ejaculate, it’s because my partner isn’t skilled or honorable enough. Sweet, no more pressure! Thanks, David!

  47. I know guys appreciate the visual, knowing they’ve helped bring their lady to orgasm, but seriously. As others have said, cut it out with the pressure. What you may not realize, though I know this may be a tremendously difficult concept to grasp, is that women can have spectacular orgasms -without- ejaculation. Yes, orgasm can be reached without squirting. I know it may be hard to believe, but it’s true! And it still feels like an orgasm. Crazy, I know.

  48. It just happened for my wife years ago when we started dating, first time for her and for me. We know what positions/pressure work for us but if she isn’t totally chilled then it won’t happen. When she squirts though it is seriously special and it just seems like the most intense orgasms – makes me jealous to be a man. You know you’ve had a good night when you have to sleep on towels just to keep dry 🙂

  49. I agree with Sex Fairy. It might be something that any woman can ‘learn,’ but I think there’s a small percentage of ‘natural squirters’ out there. Of 10 sex partners I’ve had, only one squirts. And she does it when orgasming, regardless of whether the simulation is g-spot, clitoral, or vaginal.

    That said, I think it’s awesome.

  50. Agreed Matbo!
    I don’t believe that every woman is “capable” of ejaculating. I don’t feel the NEED to do so, in any case. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, also great.
    No. More. Pressure. Sex is FUN.

  51. “Female ejaculation is the greatest compliment a woman can give to her partner. ”

    Oh, way to put pressure on any woman who “fails” to ejaculate. I’m quite happy just being able to orgasm normally thank you. It took me a while to learn and the pressure was pretty intense: I felt wrong and broken and confused. I wanted so badly to show how much I enjoyed it.
    Now I orgasm, but I do it for me, not as some sort of trophy to my partner. By all means we can go for trying to make me ejaculate. But the greatest compliment I give my man is that I choose to spend all my life with him.

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