Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “I think my boobs are too small — slightly pudgy guys have bigger boobs than me! Should I get a boob job?”
Gay Committed Guy (Mark): Gut response: No. Even though god knows how many Americans have some kind of body-image hangup, I don’t think “society” is shaming those pudgy guys into getting liposuction on their manboobs in order to look more attractive to women. That said, if you think the pain and possible health risks associated with surgery and/or implants are worth it — if you really think it would improve your self-esteem, and you’ve exhausted all other options toward that end — it’s your decision. Anyone who tells you that you “should” get a boob job is either a creep or a plastic surgeon or an editor at Us Weekly magazine (the latter of which will be the first to mock your new rack for looking fake). I have friends who have had minor work done — breasts (adding and subtracting), eyes, nose, thighs, tummy — and they’ve all been pleased with the results. Obviously, if you do decide to go through with it, find a reputable doctor to do it for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what other people think. If you feel self-conscious with any part of your body, there’s nothing stopping you from getting some plastic surgery. There are multiple surgeons out there, like Dr. Jeffrey Swail for example, that could make you feel so much more confident in your own body. Don’t let other people sway your decision. If you want plastic surgery, you should go ahead with it. Confidence is so important for women, so be sure to make yourself feel confident however you want to.
Straight Single Guy (Max): It kills me not to automatically say “Don’t do it!”, but I think it actually depends on a couple of things. Confidence, as you know, matters more than most factors when it comes to attraction. If you can’t talk to a guy because you’re too self-conscious about the size of your boobs, then you need to do something. Personally, I think fake boobs are gross. I believe that some guys agree, no matter how much porn would have you believe otherwise. But again, you gotta do what makes you feel sexy. (Oh, and please don’t compare yourself to pudgy guys. That’s the first step in gaining a little self confidence.)
Straight Married Guy (Ben): My wife’s boobs have changed sooo much over the course of our relationship — from tiny to a handful to size F after our baby was born (we didn’t even know they made size F!) and then back to C. Each step of the way I’ve been right there enjoying them. It’s actually been one of the most amazing things about her body. That’s not to say your boobs are one day going to blossom or grow, but what’s made my wife’s body so immensely pleasurable for me and for her is her own comfort and confidence with it. Sexy does not equal boob size. Sexy equals feeling good and being confident in yourself and your sexuality. I say, learn to rock those nubs! You can always get the surgery later. Or have a baby.
Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Ben, a writer and artist living in Los Angeles who runs AdultParlorGames.com. Our Committed Gay Guy, Mark, is a writer and teacher in NYC and our Single Straight Guy, Max, is a recent college grad in New England — both asked us to file them under “shy.” To ask the guys your own question, click here.
haha Lynn did you know that corsets are really built for girls with small chests? Victoria’s Secret doesn’t sell corsets above a cup size C–go check for yourself! I’ve always wanted to buy one but being a D, I’d have to chalk up a lot of dough at a higher-end lingerie store to find one. A larger rack squeezed at the top of a corset causes creases near your armpit–really not that attractive at all.
Tiny boobs, here. Then again, I’m still a tad young (almost 20), and since I’ve had problems maintaining weight, I think once I get that down, I’ll be fine. They’re already getting bigger.
The only reason I have ever wanted implants was so I’d fit into corsets better. They look funny when there isn’t anything squeezed at the top. 😀
Yeah, large breasts are overrated. I’m a DD and it’s so hard to find clothes that fit and that don’t make you look top-heavy, and bras that support me properly. Not to say that I don’t like them 🙂 but boobs don’t make the woman.
What a great conversation 🙂
I love em all, shapes and sizes. As already stated, it’s not the size, it’s how a woman rocks them. Quite honestly, give me a flat-chested woman with hips, and I’m all over her 🙂
I am a mom of two girls. Naturally, I have “Mommy boobs” that arent the full C I used to have at 19. It makes me feel self-conscious when I look at other women that arent moms and have full boobs and they seem more confident in themselves than I do…I want to get a boob job but their father tells me he’s soooo against fake but I find him looking at other females boobs sometimes. Idk what to do, but I dont feel sexy anymore.
I am a 50 year old woman and love my boobs the size they are. I have never had implants and do not feel I need them. I am a you get what you see and if your significant other does not like what you have then, he is very shallow. A man does not love you for your boobs, he loves you for the person you are. I have found most men like a confident woman and will relate better to a confident woman than one that is shy. Nothing wrong with being shy, just come out of your shell some. Life is full of surprises and “You are who you are boobs or no boobs.”
I never thought I would be the type of woman to have a breast augmentation but after I went from a size 14 to a size 2 there was nothing left. just two empty sacks where my breast once were. I had a lift and implants and know one can tell. I chose the smallest size that fit my frame and they were place under the muscle not on top. I had no pain a feel like myself again.
Some time ago my firm did research among women with very large breasts. (Client was a clothing firm.) Uniformly they told horror stories: pain, difficulty with shopping and many normal tasks, all problems increasing as they aged, and inappropriate male attention. Be careful what you wish for; you may get it.
I have big boobs-and they’re not all they’re cracked up to be. I do think boobs are great, but small boobs are so much better!
I love these men! From a little person – thanks for the good words~
never,just wait they will grow once ur hubby starts to enjoy them,and yes i’m into small just a mouthfull is gr8 for me,but no bigger than a C and perky cuz i hate the smell from those that sag.
ditto ditto.
i like ALL boobs.. well.. all female boobs.
i don’t care for man-boobs.
“I looooove small boobs.”
Ditto.
I looooove small boobs.
I got implants 4 years ago, but it wasn’t really about size for me. After I finished breastfeeding my second child and losing some weight, my boobs just evaporated. It was like I had two empty balloons tacked to my chest. I HATED the way I looked naked and didn’t want my husband to look at or touch me. I visited several plastic surgeons until I found one I liked and trusted. He was the only one who didn’t insist I get a lift as well (I had no desire to look like a forty year old woman with 22 year old boobs!). I am delighted with my new body but I would advise any young woman to wait until after having kids to even think about it.