Your Call: Would You Date Someone 30 Years Older?

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This week’s question from a reader is very simple: Would you date someone 30 years your senior?

Let us know what you think in the comments section below. And, of course, don’t forget to tell us how old YOU are, and whether you’re male or female. In this case, we think both are pretty pertinent!



  1. I’m 23 and dating a man 20 years my senior. Things are going great and chemistry/connection isn’t lacking, but I can see trouble on the horizon. It’s not strictly the age thing – we’re in different places in life. I eventually want marriage and kids, he’s been there done that, etc. The moral of the story is that age isn’t a barrier in itself, but it could suggest other complications.

    So, yes, but tread cautiously.

  2. I did, in my late teens. Sorry to say I had daddy issues. It wasn’t all that.

  3. Hell no. I don’t want to date anyone old enough to be my father. The power dynamic gives me the heebie-jeebies big time. And I just don’t have those daddy issues to find that appealing.

  4. On line, women of 50-60 are CONSTANTLY hit on by men in their 20s and 30s, to the extent that many post explicit warnings NOT to contact them if the age difference is too great. You could argue that what these men are doing is not exactly trying to date someone, but clearly a 30-year age difference does not dim erotic optimism.

  5. A couple of my friends have parents with about a 20 year age gap and they’ve both divorced- might just be them, but the age gap kept throwing up too many differences

  6. Nah. In my early 20’s I might have dated a woman in her early 50’s. But now that I’m in my 30’s that would mean dating a woman in her 60’s. Nope, too old.

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