If you’ve managed to successfully navigate some of the pitfalls of swipe-based apps and found someone you’d like to hookup with, congratulations! You’ve succeeded where many have failed. But making a “date” is only half the battle. Coming prepared (no pun intended) is essential. You’ve got to think about what to wear, what hookup items to bring, even whether to hug them hello.
We can’t hold your hand through every aspect of this social interaction — and hey, nervous excitement is part of the fun! — but we can tell you what to bring along to ensure you enjoy yourself (at least enough not be right back on Tinder an hour later!).
So conversation is flowing and that glass of wine has settled those nerves a bit. But while you’re fairly confident that a speck of food isn’t going to materialize between your teeth after you’ve checked and re-checked, you can’t shake the sense that maybe your breath isn’t the freshest…?
While your date most likely can’t smell or taste anything if you brushed, popping a mint can help put your mind at ease and let you enjoy the ride, while also potentially adding a fresh tingle to any potential oral activities. Bonus points for carrying them in a nice tin case.
Oh, and we’d personally opt for mint over gum, just because the active chewing can be a bit less than attractive, and makes it a lot harder to transition to kissing when you need to spit it out!
2. Wet Naps
With your breath covered, you may still not be feeling your most confident about body-to-body contact. While it goes without saying that meeting up for sex should always be preceded by a shower, it’s possible that after going out dancing, or even just for drinks on a hot summer night, you may feel a little less than fresh. This is why non-irritating wet wipes are a must-have for your hookup kit, no matter your “equipment.” While again, your partner may not mind nearly as much as you think they do, when roles are reversed we are sure you’d appreciate the gesture!
You and your date are now back at their (or your) place. The heat is rising and you are making out like Jake Gyllenhaal and Heath Ledger, ready to put the back into Brokeback. But if there’s no glove, then there’s no love. Bringing your own condoms (and yes, dental dams!) with you not only gives you peace of mind, but lets your partner know you take your health seriously. STIs are on the rise and taking steps to protect yourself against infections can save you a lot of stress in the future. These are non-negotiable hookup items! Here are some moves that can help incorporate condoms into your playtime and make sure safer never felt sexier.
We’ve said it once and we’ll keep saying it: THE WETTER THE BETTER. Not only does extra water-based lubrication feel amazing, it can help ensure the condom stays intact — sometimes latex can dry up a little with the friction, making tears and breaks more likely. A jumbo-sized bottle may be a little intense, so opt for a sachet, or or a small, elegant bottle. That way you’ll never end up having to use your partner’s questionably old bottle of KY.
5. A Discreet Toy
You’ve heard before that the majority of vagina owners find it hard to orgasm through penetration alone. So it should come as no surprise then that we suggest you include a small clitoral vibe with your hookup items. Something like the MIA 2 that’s small, discreet and can fit into any bag but packs enough punch that it will leave her (or you) gasping for more. Just be sure, that if you’re using it on this new special friend, the toy is also new and fresh out of the box! (When it comes to sex toys, sharing isn’t caring.)