Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How common are multiple orgasms among men?”
Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): This is one of those things that really mellow, grey-ponytailed guys that meditate daily, do kegels constantly, and have been practicing tantra since the late ’70s tell you is possible but that the majority of men have not experienced and don’t expect to any time this millennium. The idea of multiple orgasms reminds me of a more realistic fantasy of making auto-fellatio possible through years of practice like in the classic SNL skit with Will Farrell. I know it’s possible. And sure it sounds great. But who wants to put in all the hard work to get there?
Gay Committed Guy (Terence): I believe the nature of men is predisposed to multiple orgasms. By multiple I mean two. More than two is pushing it, but most men I’ve “known” have had a pretty good track record for multiples. Then again, by multiple are we talking within an hour or within a day? If you’re talking about a whole day’s worth, well then you’re looking at three to five orgasms easily — with diminishing returns of course.
Straight Married Guy (Matt): As in multiple orgasms in one night, or in one go? ‘Cause if it’s the former, you can probably start at around four to five orgasms a night as a physical possibility at age 18 (not something that happens very often in practice, mind you). From there it’s pretty much a straight diagonal line to zero times per night at age 90 or whatever. I’d say monogamy also exerts downward pressure on this line. Not to say that this is a bad thing; at 38, I’m frankly less than enthusiastic about the idea of spending enough time to bring about a second orgasm. One is plenty, thanks. As for multiple orgasms in one shot, I’ve never, ever heard of this happening — not to me or anyone else I know. Even if this were possible, due to each successive orgasm for men being less intense, I’d say again: one is plenty, thanks.
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I’m in the 30-40 range and I’m able to have multiple consecutive orgasms, but almost never from intercourse. It takes a lot of foreplay (about 40 minutes-1 hour minimum), mostly with a vibrator/massager on the bottom of the penis, just brushing the bottom of the head. Orgasm is uniquely intense with 4-5+ immediate orgasms. And if someone is playing with my nipples, sometimes even more. I’m usually left wanting more, but after that kind of show, it takes about 15-20 minutes to do it again.
I have actually experienced two consecutive orgasms within seconds of each other during masturbation. After I came the first time, I kept going even faster and harder than before to keep the pleasure rising, and within seconds I had a stronger orgasm.
one day he did it three times but never can get that third one again damnit lol
My boyfriend can often manage a “double” and occasionally a “triple.” In general, the first one or two are not as strong, the final one definitely seems to be the strongest. They are generally spaced very close together (30 seconds to a minute or so in between), but agreed, not the kind of multiples I have, where there feels like literally no time/space in between. Still, they’re pretty impressive! (He is 24, so it may be partly just a youth thing, although I’ve only been with one other person who had this ability, no matter what the age. Both of them are good at orgasming without ejaculating, which probably helps.)
I’m over 40y.o. and have had two in a row, 10 to 30 seconds apart, both wet, many times. Enrique and Alex/Suzanne are exactly right though. It doesn’t come naturally at all, takes practice and good control. You must just barely cross over the line the first time, then once the first one begins to recede, then go at it full blast and try for a second time. Neither tends to be as powerful as a good single O though. Have never even come close to having 3 in fast succession though.
I avoid using words like “tantric” or any other such terms that unnecessarily shroud it in mysteriousness. It’s just a learned response. Probably one not every man is capable of.
it is possible,i can have 3 /session(the third is ejaculatory)
Like Suzanne said, if the cork has fully popped with an earth shaking ejaculation, good luck trying for a second. At that point my thoughts turn to rehydration with a 32 oz. Gatorade or I.V. (and of course satisfying my wife’s needs).
My wife can give me a multi-O, usually it involves quality foreplay, some P-spot stimulation (exterior or interior), and her on top (not necessarily in that order). Never had a multi-O in the missionary position, I don’t think you can relax enough.
The closest I’ve ever been to that is that even after fully climaxing I was still aroused long enough to keep on keepin’ on and do so again, as it were. Usually she would be ready to stop before a second climax happened. When it did happen, it was really enjoyable, as I was not particularly sore, nor was I quick to climax again. I don’t think it’s the same as the multiple orgasm that women can have.
When you’re talking about several hundred million sperm in a single climax, evolution probably figured if that one payload didn’t get the job done, give a guy a few minutes and you can try again.
Outside of tantric sex (check “Candy,” a very funny novel from the dear dead ’60s), we don’t have multiple orgasms the way women do. We just don’t. The perfectly honest responses you’re getting from other men describe something else entirely different. We’re envious of women. At least for that.
Now, in what way has your life been improved by this knowledge? Thought so.
How come no guys are answering??
I put this question to Alex and he said this is possible for him if he hasn’t come “hard” the first time.
Once the cork has fully popped out of the bottle he can’t manage another.
My fiance has done it. Multiples in men are possible.
It’s definitely possible. My boyfriend can and has done it. He’s never had more than two orgasms in one session though.
For men, from what I have seen, they definitely are NOT the same as female multiple orgasms. When most women talk about being multiple orgasmic, we are talking about arousal, plateau, first orgasm and then one or many more orgasms often without significant Plateauing in-between and without Resolution phase entering the picture until we are done. When the orgasmic cycle is over, then we enter the Resolution phase.
Most men who have “multiple” orgasms, seem to have Arousal, Plateau, Orgasm w/ ejaculation, Resolution, THEN RE-arousal, Plateauing, then an other orgasm etc. Of course, some young men under 25 or so seem to be able to have at least two with no discernible plateauing or resolution phase, but researchers like Master’s and Johnson and Kinsey tell us there men ARE having plateau and resolution, but in a very rapid fire manner until the next orgasm.
I’ve never really heard of a man having the rapid fire multiples, with little or no plateauing which at least 14% of the female population is capable of. (I think more women are capable of this, but the research says only this small number. I really don’t know how accurate this percentage for women is.)
My boyfriend stays hard after he cums and I’ve witnessed him have three orgasms in a single session. So it’s definitely possible.