Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How common are multiple orgasms among men?”
Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): This is one of those things that really mellow, grey-ponytailed guys that meditate daily, do kegels constantly, and have been practicing tantra since the late ’70s tell you is possible but that the majority of men have not experienced and don’t expect to any time this millennium. The idea of multiple orgasms reminds me of a more realistic fantasy of making auto-fellatio possible through years of practice like in the classic SNL skit with Will Farrell. I know it’s possible. And sure it sounds great. But who wants to put in all the hard work to get there?
Gay Committed Guy (Terence): I believe the nature of men is predisposed to multiple orgasms. By multiple I mean two. More than two is pushing it, but most men I’ve “known” have had a pretty good track record for multiples. Then again, by multiple are we talking within an hour or within a day? If you’re talking about a whole day’s worth, well then you’re looking at three to five orgasms easily — with diminishing returns of course.
Straight Married Guy (Matt): As in multiple orgasms in one night, or in one go? ‘Cause if it’s the former, you can probably start at around four to five orgasms a night as a physical possibility at age 18 (not something that happens very often in practice, mind you). From there it’s pretty much a straight diagonal line to zero times per night at age 90 or whatever. I’d say monogamy also exerts downward pressure on this line. Not to say that this is a bad thing; at 38, I’m frankly less than enthusiastic about the idea of spending enough time to bring about a second orgasm. One is plenty, thanks. As for multiple orgasms in one shot, I’ve never, ever heard of this happening — not to me or anyone else I know. Even if this were possible, due to each successive orgasm for men being less intense, I’d say again: one is plenty, thanks.
Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. Colin Adamo is an undergrad at Yale University where he directs the biennial Sex Week at Yale; Terence is an American living in Sydney; Matt is a little shy. To ask the guys your own question, click here.
I am 50 and can orgasm 5-6 times in a session of a half hour to 45 minutes. I also know that through my life I have had countless instances were I would orgasm one after another seconds appart typicaly 3 times but have had 7 or so I think tops. I know I am not alone in having this happen and everyone is different tells us that anything is possible.I always hear how men go at it like idots to please a woman and get nothing out of it for themselves other than a sore back and tired muscles and make like it’s an ego boost for them lol. Women are exactly the same in thinking as we are if you let them, and if you share the work load she will also get the ego boost knowing she brought extacy to you also with neither getting sore backs and tired muscles.
My boyfriend is 55 years old(!) and he has actual multiple orgasms. He will orgasm and then immediately orgasm again within the same minute. He will sometimes get hard again a few minutes after a session. We can’t sleep in the same bed because he will wake me up several times to try to have sex with me and it pisses me off. He doesn’t take Viagra or any other pills. He once asked me if I wanted him to try them, and I almost smacked him upside his head (j/k). He is a shit brick house though– a strength and conditioning coach for MMA fighters and a former Pride fighter.
I have had 6 orgasms just a few days ago and i was having sex for about an hour and i say this is possible, depending on men and also how you control your emotions. That answer about 25 years old or younger, that is a lie, i am 31 and i can have more than 3 orgarsms in time.
My boyfriend has orgasmed (actually ejaculated) three times in less than 10 minutes. He’s a sex _GOD!!!! I’ve only seen it once before with one other man…but he could only do it twice. Oh most definately it can happen!
I am 17 and I’ve never experienced such a thing. After my first O, it is very hard for me to even feel the sensitivity of the vagina or mouth after I O … I mostly continue just to pleasure my partner. at one point in time I sat down and received oral for 1hr atleast and still didn’t even feel close to orgasming after I had an O probably 1 1/2 hour prior. I’ve only had 2 Os within let’s say 2-2.5 hours with the latter feeling like I shot blanks, because it was not as intense as the first.
It depends on how into the sex I am for my refactory time, inotice that if I jump straight into sex I stay up and if I get head when I have an O I have to wait 10min or so to feel aroused again.
I agree…My Fiance usually has two in a row with no refractory time in between…Its just orgasm, and 10 minutes later Orgasm again…I’ve never seen It with any other men I’ve been with, Its a total turn on for me, and I’m quite impressed that he can orgasm back to back like that…The second one is the best from what I can hear, get it, hear…LOL!!!
I’ve managed a max of 3 (about 20 min to get to the first and slightly less time for each succeeding one), all were ejaculatory (and forceful), and I rarely ever hold back. I’ve always had the ability to do so. Perhaps it is because the first time I ejaculated I was ignorantly unaware that males aren’t supposed to be able to have more than one orgasm. I came twice. The second feels the best usually. I have only managed a third recently, having recently desired to see if it was possible. The third is pretty satisfying too, but 2 is probably the best number to have. I have had no tantric training, or anything similar.
I think that a lot of it is a mind game. If you can really get yourself to want more after you orgasm, you’re on the right track. It’s a great skill to have because your time is something you never worry about. Finish too quickly? Not a problem if you can keep going.
I always believed it was a possible. However the closest I had come to achieving multiple orgasms in the past where 2 over a very lengthy time spent in bed, well over 3 hrs. Tonight It took me awhile to achieve my first but then I had a second within ten minutes and a third within 5 mins. I truly did not expect a third but felt like trying since the 2nd came so easily. Its my personal belief that the open communication with my lover about our fantasies and our acceptance of them has opened up a door sexually that I had not known about. Either way I just achieved 3 in such a short which I consider multiple orgasms. The final two where no less rewarding and came with absolutely no effort. Following a very sexy talk about a mutual fantasy we share and have been cultivating together. Hope it shed s some light. Regardless of the reason. I am amazed these multiple orgasms occurred at all. I feel like I just won a prize 🙂
^Bullshit. Are you sure you understand what an orgasm is?
On several occasions I have had over 20 orgasms, yes over 20 as i lost count but my wife just took it in disbelief. It takes a lot of control and not letting the first one go completely and just holding back. It is an experience that I want every time we have sex but it is so challenging to catch the first orgasm. It really helps looking at a photo of Ulisses Jr, he can keep you hard for days!
Having one was not so easy (after treatment with antidepressants and stalling lifestyle) and two, even in the same day was almost impossible. But then doc put me on testosterone and added Dostinex (increases dopamine and lowers prolactin) and man… one time I had 4 in a row, but libido was over the roof, I had hardons just by looking at a sexy gal on the street and once I even came on the beach while kissing my gf.
Still, I had to back off from that medication cause it was giving me heart probs 🙁
I miss it very much though, the awesome libido.
Oh, and he’s in his early 30’s. I don’t think he’s had any tantric training. Yea, I don’t think I’ll be going anywhere any time soon either <3
I just had sex with my boyfriend today. He ejaculated 3 times in about a 15 min span. We go at it while we’re both “working” so it HAS to be hard and fast. Last week’s quickie session produced 2 orgasms for him. And the first night we had sex he also came 3 times back-to-back-to-back =)
I can usually have 3-4 explosive orgasms in a single masturbation session. I find just focusing and breathing in the right way with absolutely no physical touch gets me going pretty close to start off. It’s something I’ve worked at to let myself go and be aware of what I’m feeling and thinking. I usually go at it very slow with no sense of urgency and like to feel every little sensation along the way. My first orgasm is full body and takes maybe 5 or 15 minutes depending on my mood. I ejaculate and hold back about 25% from totally letting go. My second and third orgasms folllow quickly in a minute or two accompanied by a steady flow of thinner fluid, but not a forceful ejaculation. These sensation of orgasms are more in my head, versus “down there”. My last orgasm is always the best, but takes more time. I can’t be gentle or slow and just go at it hard for maybe 4- 5 minutes. It is intense and full body accompanied by a full ejaculation. It takes me 15:-20 minutes for everything. I never lose my erection until the last one. I have very little recovery time no matter if its masturbation or sex with my girlfriend. I love it and she enjoys the show!
I have had multiples since I first became sexually active. I used to think something was wrong as I was rock hard after sex. Then in my 30s I just would do it again right after sex. Seconds after first time. Then I realized I could have 5 in a row over 45 min of straight sex. Now mid 40s and 2-3 times is normal each session. Sometimes I still go 4 times. Mine are just as good each time.