Your Call – How Should You Move While On Top?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below:

Dear Em & Lo,

I need help…I’ve never had sex where I am on top. I guess because I do not feel completely comfortable with my body. But also, I get scared that I will not move the right way. Can you help me with this? I have always been a bit boring in bed..missionary style mostly…but I met someone who I would love to have sex with, and he seems very experienced…Help!

— Stuck on the Bottom

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12 Comments on "Your Call – How Should You Move While On Top?"

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El Toro2011

Hey!! the best of all orgasm for a woman is the 69th position. She will howl like a wolf, and then put her on top and the rest is hee haw!!!!!!!!!!!!


no one is born knowing what to do,thus just go for it with confidence and you will never be disappointed.if possible why don’t you share that with your man.


The best thing to do is to do what feels good to you. If you do that, I PROMISE you that you will have done it right!

I taught my girlfriend to do this and she became a beast being in control!!

One of the only ways I can get off is by getting on top of my boyfriend and grinding my clit into him while his cock is fully inside of me. Sometimes I go in circles, sometimes back and forth, whatever I’m compelled to do at the time. My boyfriend wants more “in and out” action, but he also likes to see me get off. Solution? I do what I need to do to get off, and he takes control by grabbing my hips and moving his own to initiate some thrusting when his cock is feeling neglected. He especially… Read more »
Ok, there’s more than a couple of great suggestions here already. First of all yes, while nothing’s 100% certain, Candice is right that almost any relatively experience man is going to be supportive, and possibly flattered, if you tell him you’d like to try something. And April’s right that playful is the right perspective — if you have to do it “right” the first time then… yeah, where’s the fun in that? And if sex isn’t fun then why have it!?! Secondly, Nellie and Steve have some good suggestions for motions to experiment with. Especially the point about being able… Read more »

Oh, my. I love my lady on the top. She is in total control, and takes me with her sometimes with multiples not possible in other positions. I could spend all day down there loving every movement she makes. My favorite position by far.


While agreeing with all the other people, I might mention that it is fine admitting that you have not done something before, would be very interested in trying it and would like some advice on how to do it. Men generally react very positively and offer what advice/help they can.